Married poor people

(Written by Kashf Rana)

By the way, the relationship of husband and wife is the first relationship of heaven and to some extent it looks beautiful to see and hear. But this is a very burning relationship of our society. And sometimes it burns so much that even the neighbors get sick. By the way, I feel sorry for married people and I prefer them to be married “married ” I say Such as flood-affected, poverty-stricken, afflicted, (Such a marriage is not less than a trouble). It seems to me that this is a bond in which two intelligent people are forced to fight at will. This one “Lifetime Contract” is And such a long contract should be signed thoughtfully. I agreed to go to a friend's wedding, the girl was a bit scared, shy and nervous. Seeing me, she said, I am very scared. How should people behave, how should they treat me? I joked to Ezra, look girl, tell me your last wish quickly. And tell me, do you see the knives? (He said this to reduce his anxiety)۔ “son” Marriage is the name of a complete Jihad, if you live, then you will die, then you will be martyred. On the other hand, the situation is not much different in the groom's house either, often the announcement is heard from the groom's house. The groom's suburban friends put on their safety belts because the groom is all set for a suicide attack.
Readers! Well, it was a joke. The main thing I want to tell you is that marriage is an act of absolute responsibility. And to entrust such a big responsibility to someone, it is very important to prepare him first. In earlier times, our older women used to explain to the girls that son, your doli is going to this house, now your funeral should come out of there. (It meant that all the sorrows, sufferings and sufferings had to be borne there) Today's mothers say that son, your doli is going, our son-in-law's funeral should come out. We definitely teach our girls that sons should be patient and bearable, but we don't tell them how to handle the situation. The result of which is that girls initially tolerate sarcastic phrases and harsh words, but there comes a time when they explode. And this is where the situation of deterioration arises.
The main reasons: According to me, the main reason for this is the difference in the environment of the two families. Girls who work at home. Their reaction is different, while she does the same thing in her in-laws, the reaction is different. And distortion occurs.
Role of media and social media: Media and social media are also playing a very important role in the education of girls. I still remember very well that when there was only one TV channel PTV and all the family would sit together and watch TV and the content of the drama was so good that there must be some positive message and lesson in it. And this is what girls were taught that girls should try as much as possible to keep their house stable. But with great regret and great apologies, today in our dramas only women are being shown exploiting women.
The main problem: I think that there should be training workshops for boys and girls before marriage in which both of them are trained to deal with the problems of family and married life and their solutions. And they should be told how to handle any situation. In this regard, our Madzabi scholars, including teachers Nighat Hashmi and Maulana Tariq Jameel Sahib, are doing a great job at their own level, and are playing their part.
My point of view: At college and university level it as “content” As a subject, it should be taught how a peaceful environment can be created by changing in-laws' ugly attitudes into love.
Discouraging competition: Often girls compare their husbands to other men (She used to do it with her brothers or their brothers) For example, the wife says (mine or yours) A brother takes so much care of his wife while you do not. On the other hand, men are no less (Your Begums) He is heard saying that you fell in front of me. You speak while your sister does not even speak in front of her husband. (I was so afraid) While discouraging this competitive attitude, we should introduce boys and girls to the art of individual dealing so that they do not get an opportunity to talk about their vices by humiliating their life partner in the name of reformation. And they should be trained to keep each relationship in its proper place, so that the right of no relationship can be lost, so that the rate of divorce in our society can be reduced and many homes can be prevented from breaking up. Finally, my personal opinion is that a person should get married because “After all, honor is not everything in life”

Note: This writing is the columnist's own, the institution does not have to agree with it.